你听到了吗？
它发出了声音，却没说一个字。
它没说话，却表达出了自己的喜好和憎恶。
它甚至明显地暗示出自己开心与否。
猜不出吗？
”它”就是肢体语言。
肢体语言能够表达出说话者的真情实感。
你能辨别和解读对方肢体语言表达的含义吗？
如果答案是“否”，那么你正失去帮助自己和他人获得更好沟通的机会。

肢体语言——房间里的尖叫声！

 

亲爱的读者，

你参加新工作一周了。明天周末，办公室同事都非常开心。而你初来乍到，对同事们都不太熟悉，非常想要融入他们的圈子。

你觉得最好的方式是，向同事作自我介绍。你看到一个衣着考究的人靠在墙上，走向他。他独自一人站在那里，你能够非常容易地开始和他对话。

他看到你过来，立即抱起手臂将肩膀一侧对着你。说明什么呢？对，不要浪费他时间。所以请转变方向走向其他人。

你的下一个目标是一群在一起聊天的人们，当你走近，他们将圈子缩小，降低声音。很显然，你又被拒绝了。

这样的场景或许你都看到过或经历过。现实中遇到这类问题，你可能无法掌控，但是你能够明白对方的意图。以上两种情景中，他们肢体语言表达的意思非常明显。

地球上的每一种生物都会通过动作来发出讯息。假如你在森林中遇到一只熊，那么不要害怕，按照专家说的，站直，举起左臂并发出低沉的声音。

当然，希望你永远不要遇到。

每天我们都使用肢体语言表达着行为和感情–可能是祝福，亦或是咒骂。当我们说话与行为表达一致时，我们的人际交往将变得越来越好。

学习肢体语言有利于提高人际交往的技能。对于你与朋友、家人或生意伙伴建立融洽的关系具有非常大的帮助。

问自己以下三个问题：

• 如果你能通过对方的肢体语言判断出他是否在说谎，会怎么样？
• 如果你能够掌握这项技能，会怎么样？
• 如果赌博中你能够读取对方的细节动作所表达的意思，会怎么样？

那么，你现在就能知晓这一切，而且非常简单！

如何开始！

你可以在当地社区大学或综合性大学里选修心理学课程。当然，如果你以后不想从事这方面的事业，这将大材小用。

你可以去图书馆，翻阅健康心理书籍，很多书需要查阅资料才能理解。它们厚重，积灰，大多已过时，它们只不过是一页一页的纸张，对你毫无用处。

那些专业指导书不适用于日常生活。你需要的是一本实用的指南，帮助你获取便于应用到生活中的知识。

你需要的就是这本《如何成功运用肢体语言》。

最好的部分是. . .

• 并非专家撰写，简单易懂。
• 详细地介绍了肢体语言方面的知识。
• 非常值得一读！

本书作者基于自身经验所得撰写本书，将帮助你辨别和解读自身及他人的肢体语言，从而提升你的人际交往能力。从本书中，你将：

• 学习肢体语言的“真谛”。
• 找出自身存在的肢体语言的错误。
• 意识到“双脚从不说谎”。
• 如何观察他人的微表情。
• 提升自身的第二语言。

 

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